tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post2638559185916405618..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: A) Secure & Stable B) Is It Worth It?jimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-69645504404886474162010-01-25T17:08:48.189-05:002010-01-25T17:08:48.189-05:00Sorry but I couldn't agree less with Ian.....d...Sorry but I couldn't agree less with Ian.....don't even know where he's coming from with his statement. <br /><br />The truth is "recommitting" is far more harmful and acknowledging that truth about who you are. As for the Lion Queen I also feel that eventually he will get "caught", but that's his road....his path.<br /><br />Keep working on who you are.....sure it can be lonely sometimes, but at least you won't feel "trapped".manxxmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356862387136173023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-84503436849590991842010-01-23T09:33:35.696-05:002010-01-23T09:33:35.696-05:00The simple answer is the price is too high. You a...The simple answer is the price is too high. You are a wealthy man with a wife, children, and a life that many would die for. You are loved and you have individuals to love. You are a wealthy man.<br /><br />The fact that you have the capacity to love a man in a sexual way doesn't mean you have to act on that desire. Each of us has the capacity to lie, cheat, steal and even murder. The fact that we can do such things doesn't mean we must do these things. Admittedly the fact that you have unleashed that capacity to love a man in a sexual way really complicates things. Your "genie in the bottle" analogy is apt. <br /><br />My heart goes out to you. You have done tremendous damage to your marriage. I don't know if it can be repaired. Perhaps your wife's love for you is only surpassed by her ability to forgive. There are people like that. <br /><br />The notion that there is magical world over the gay rainbow is at best a misnomer. The same relationship challenges exist there. The challenge to love and be loved. <br /><br />You are a wealthy man. Don't throw it away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-76430697159607594502010-01-22T05:26:08.854-05:002010-01-22T05:26:08.854-05:00I'm not in the same situation as you and I mig...I'm not in the same situation as you and I might be talking nonsense.<br />However, I do believe that every individual makes their choices and live with the consequences. You Jim and ‘TheLionQueen’ just see things differently.<br />I personally could not live the double life that the ‘TheLionQueen’ lives. I’d be feeling guilty, so badly that I’d probably lose my sleep over it. I think that Jim, you think similarly. You need to be honest and responsible of your actions. That is why you first told K about having the need to sleep with men. ‘TheLionQueen’ has the ability to separate his double lives in two different entities and try not to mess one with another… That Jim I do think would work for you…Nik_TheGreekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00986723570093229435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-14214629360769148902010-01-22T02:55:48.147-05:002010-01-22T02:55:48.147-05:00Thank you for not being offended by what I write. ...Thank you for not being offended by what I write. It isn't my intention. I totally understand where you're coming from and I understand the impossible situation you are in.<br /><br />You are also right that my situation is also far from ideal - but it's the situation that suits me. I like to think that if I am sensible and disciplined and stick to my way of thinking I can live my "double life" quite happily without being caught.<br /><br />I think you are incredibly strong and brave to have even got to the situation you are in.<br /><br />I don't think there is any right answer in our situation. Everyone does what's right for them. I do know that without a doubt the "urge" to be with a guy will always be there. I've met people who have pushed it aside for years - but it ALWAYS returns so you must do what makes you be true to yourself - but you must also remember that you made a commitment to K and by having children you made a commitment to them too.<br /><br />Thanks for your understanding and I hope things work out good for you either way!!<br /><br />http://idontunderstanditeither.blogspot.com/The Lion Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241533983667513498noreply@blogger.com