tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post3578148157212536640..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: 18 years, 2 Months, 17 daysjimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-80622487936269719532011-11-15T20:31:54.507-05:002011-11-15T20:31:54.507-05:00I'd be surprised if you *didn't* feel some...I'd be surprised if you *didn't* feel some sadness about the end of your marriage. Even under the circumstances. Future anniversaries of the ex marriage might put you in a bit of a funk, too, for a few years. All normal. <br /><br />So now that you are officially divorced how do you feel? I send my congratulations and condolences all at once, because both are appropriate.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-15225531112799124192011-11-14T01:32:07.989-05:002011-11-14T01:32:07.989-05:00I remember feeling like a failure too. My good fr...I remember feeling like a failure too. My good friends assured me that I was not - for some reason I believed them. I certainly don't feel like one now. I look around me and see that 80% or more of the ppl I interact with daily are on their second marriage. Not sure that statistic is reason to celebrate though. We joke that everyone needs a "starter marriage". Looks like yours and mine (19 yrs) lasted a long time for starters! <br /><br />You are certainly not a failure - you have great kids and a great bf. Those are signs of you succeeding!<br /><br />My colleagues at work want to have a divorce ceremony/celebration for me. Might not impress K so perhaps not the right idea for you.<br /><br />All the best!JustAMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304812477710391158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-50177637906818250922011-11-14T00:35:35.272-05:002011-11-14T00:35:35.272-05:00I think that what you're feeling is quite norm...I think that what you're feeling is quite normal when a marriage comes to an end. You and K were married a very long time, with a vibrant history of children and leaky roofs, broken fan belts, and all the normal wee things a marriage seems to be made up of. So, allow yourself to feel blue for a bit, and then you'll be up on top again, happy as usual.<br /><br />And yes, you found a real winner their in your T, tell him so often.Biki Honkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.com