tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post5786628020413123681..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: Thinking About the Straight Spousejimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-48130884709264600012014-09-09T07:44:28.484-04:002014-09-09T07:44:28.484-04:00HI Jim, I found your blog a few weeks ago and am ...HI Jim, I found your blog a few weeks ago and am slowly making my way through it. You are giving me so much insight into why gay men would marry a woman and try to live a lie.<br />I found out my ex husband of 31 years was cheating on me for years with internet strangers he found on Craigslist and Squirt. We tried to make it work and be friends for the first little while, but he continued to make very bad choices and so now we only talk when we have to. My adult daughter does not talk to him at all and won't let him see his grandkids. It had nothing to do with him being gay, but with the years of lies, deception and betrayal. <br />I admire the way you and K have puu your family first and yet are still trying to live your separate lives (I'm only in 2010 lol). I have a lot of respect for you and the way you tried to take everyone's feelings into consideration. Unfotunately, that is not always the case when men come out at a later age and have a lot of catching up to do :)<br />Anyways, just wanted to say I am really enjoying your blog, it's helping me to understand my ex a little bit more and also has me wishing he had seen and read your blog before everything blew up in both our faces. Maybe he would have done some stuff differently and would still have his family.<br />Take care and I'll keep reading and catch up!johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03441261530965420429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-10345326081853255522010-06-13T13:56:51.261-04:002010-06-13T13:56:51.261-04:00Now that being gay is more acceptable maybe we wil...Now that being gay is more acceptable maybe we will see less of gay men getting married.RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761591668246881356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-11608926292848026052010-06-11T17:30:42.824-04:002010-06-11T17:30:42.824-04:00Do you know that the guy with gray hair in the 700...Do you know that the guy with gray hair in the 700 Club used to have a boyfriend before he had that TV show?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-9139082056924421902010-06-11T15:43:15.488-04:002010-06-11T15:43:15.488-04:00Jim, you make an excellent point. It would be som...Jim, you make an excellent point. It would be something to have this topic featured on the 700 Club.<br /><br />I don't have to deal with "right wing religious people" in every day life, so I could be way off about what I'm going to say, but...<br /><br />It seems to me that such people are not self-aware. When they SAY they want gays to choose a Christian life, that's not exactly what they want. What they want is a society where everyone looks, thinks and acts exactly as they do. Right, wrong, happiness, salvation even, those things don't actually matter. It's all about outward appearances. <br /><br />The reality of a gay man making a straight woman in a straight marraige miserable is completely irrelevant. <br /><br />What matters is that they not see two men holding hands in a grocery store.TwoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801244463128618355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-35988632598911149502010-06-11T10:32:02.035-04:002010-06-11T10:32:02.035-04:00Hell......why would they give time to the spouses ...Hell......why would they give time to the spouses "they are just women" and they are suppose to "stay at home, pregnant and cooking dinner".manxxmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356862387136173023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-74713406684897542472010-06-10T23:00:40.807-04:002010-06-10T23:00:40.807-04:00I hope you would consider sending this essay (or s...I hope you would consider sending this essay (or some derivative) to or local news media and to other outlets like the 700 Club. It goes a long way to explain why gay folks should not be shoved back into the closet.Cubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12659801291785890663noreply@blogger.com