tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post6158871363467842787..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: Part Of The Family or Home Alonejimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-12776479340834100792011-12-23T20:53:53.755-05:002011-12-23T20:53:53.755-05:00All good advice, guys, but remember he doesn't...All good advice, guys, but remember he doesn't have a lot of money to 'make his house a home' and 'make it inviting for the kids to stay there'. <br />Look, it is tough. My story: my idiot of an ex-wife screwed it up for all of us...so now I am alone and depressed, the kids are really upset, and she is her usual crappy, negative self. <br />Point is, I guess, life stinks. Just have to grin and bear it. Make the best you can of it. And spend a lot of time reading other guys' blogs so at least you know you are not alone. ...we are not alone. <br />Merry Christmas, let's get drunk.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-14118457710044698042011-12-23T09:06:00.597-05:002011-12-23T09:06:00.597-05:00I also agree with T.
You ARE a visitor at K'...I also agree with T. <br /><br />You ARE a visitor at K's house. You should LIMIT how much time you spend there. You will wear out your welcome quickly.<br /><br />MAKE your house an inviting place for the kids, and they will WANT to come. They WON'T want to come to an empty, spartan house. FIX that asap. <br /><br />You NEED to move on and make your OWN life that includes and is welcoming to the kids. Let K do the same.RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761591668246881356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-38706677623054585372011-12-23T00:17:11.175-05:002011-12-23T00:17:11.175-05:00As usual, T's advice is excellent.As usual, T's advice is excellent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-41884358697981758782011-12-22T20:33:27.758-05:002011-12-22T20:33:27.758-05:00I agree with T
M.O.M.I agree with T <br /><br />M.O.M.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-74927948379170714422011-12-22T17:05:11.105-05:002011-12-22T17:05:11.105-05:00You need to make your house a home. Instead of ha...You need to make your house a home. Instead of hanging around K's house all the time, have the kids come to your house, at least part of the time. When K is not home, make dinner at your house and bring the kids over instead of going over there. For this Christmas, if K prepares Christmas dinner, why don't you do Christmas lunch with the kids at your home?Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07010105665796027175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-70304914997907730722011-12-22T15:11:35.991-05:002011-12-22T15:11:35.991-05:00I can very much relate to how you feel.
I think y...I can very much relate to how you feel.<br /><br />I think you're under unusually high pressure right now because of the holidays and the wedding.<br /><br />Also, I know when I have too much idle time, I spend a lot of it thinking about my frustrations. Although some changes in your life are permanent, the fact that you're not in school right now is temporary. Once you have that to preoccupy you, you'll be much less lonely.<br /><br />In the meantime, maybe you should investigate more social opportunities. What other activities do the guys at bowling do? Are there monthly mixers for the local GLBT organization? Any meet-up groups in your area?<br /><br />How soon before school starts? Will you be looking for some kind of job in January?TwoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801244463128618355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-6701750943219748422011-12-22T10:24:56.824-05:002011-12-22T10:24:56.824-05:00Dear Friend,
You need to start a new traditi...Dear Friend, <br /> You need to start a new tradition to tide you over these lonely holidays. There are many single people out there who would love to do something over the holidays that doesn't involve family. Try and find another single (or a group of them) and invite them all to go to the movies or bowling or Christmas caroling. The single ministries at churches and other areas may have ideas that you could use - or programs that you could be a part of. Watching all the family events from the outside can be very isolating, so you have to put yourself into new situations. Make new traditions. You've made some very strong decisions this year and followed through on them, so it will take time to find a niche for you when you can't be with T or your family. Don't push her buttons, either. There is nothing to be gained by that. We've heard the phrase "blue Christmas" for a long time. Gay men are always makig new traditions and they gather their self-made families and friends around them. <br /> I'll work on it if you will!<br />Merry Christmas.<br />Brother BearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com