tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post6698282854502489422..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: Are the Kids All Right?? Bad Faggot Daddy.jimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-50704187347687490442011-06-05T01:23:29.560-04:002011-06-05T01:23:29.560-04:00Have you given any thought to having your daughter...Have you given any thought to having your daughter live with you? Since she is so tightly bonded to you, it might in the long run be the best thing. <br /><br />Maybe you and K should look over the various choices of how this new life is going to look. You might need to give things a twist to make the kids as happy as possible. Because when you have kids they should be the ones to have the say in where they will live full time. I would ask the kids before K and AJ buy their new house. Its just possible that they will want to live with you fulltime, even after you come out to them.<br /><br />Good luck, and remember, this is about them, not you, not K. So tell them you will love them forever. Think about what their fears, and worries could be when you tell them. If the older two have sex ed, they should be getting the scary STD talk, and they might fly right off to AIDS-land. So, be ready to tell them that you are clean, and why.<br /><br />Have you thought about getting a book for your daughter? You could read her King and King. Its pitched to her level. Read her the book, and then explain to her that daddy is just like the King in the book.....<br /><br />You might wanna call Pflag and see if they have any pamphlets and whatnot to help you phrase things the right way for the older ones.Biki Honkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06731335682679434307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-65175149214951951522011-06-04T20:57:38.637-04:002011-06-04T20:57:38.637-04:00I suggest that you prepare yourself for unexpected...I suggest that you prepare yourself for unexpected questions from your kids. They've already been asking K and now that your youngest knows what's happening, she will almost certainly tell the others. Your oldest may prove to be the biggest surprise. 14yo boys tend to stifle so much emotion that when it comes out - watch out. You might want to find out who has been asking K what so that when you answer, your answers will be similar to hers.<br /><br />As you know, kids have fears all the time. You have to show them you're not afraid and that's the best reassurance you can provide.TwoLiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05801244463128618355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-72586798583494267632011-06-04T18:05:40.478-04:002011-06-04T18:05:40.478-04:00My 2 daughters were in high school and college whe...My 2 daughters were in high school and college when we divorced and my wife angrily told them about me (without telling me.)<br /><br />It may be a little easier to tell younger children who have not yet thought about sexuality much. I suspect kids are mostly looking for who is the most stable. <br /><br />As a side thought, I would be careful about promises. If the divorce becomes adversarial, visitation could be regulated by the court more than promises.<br /><br />In my situation, I prayed a lot, and we all lived through it. I am possibly closer to the d's than my ex wife. And they both like the new partner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-24533871627003136732011-06-04T08:48:19.309-04:002011-06-04T08:48:19.309-04:00Aw, that is so sad and touching about your daughte...Aw, that is so sad and touching about your daughter. I know we aren't supposed to have favorites, but my daughter is for me too.<br /><br />And I'm with T, your kids should take your being gay fine - probably the younger ones easiest of all. Mine were adults; although my daughter was fine, my son was not (partly because my wife was not either) and I haven't had contact with him for a year and a half. <br /><br />But you have a great relationship with K, so everything should work out well. And you have a couple of months to do it. Good luck!Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12775219683154536934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-89602252898155417422011-06-04T04:13:22.826-04:002011-06-04T04:13:22.826-04:00Just be honest to the kids. They will continue to...Just be honest to the kids. They will continue to love you. You've been very closed to them, taking good care of them. They will not forget that. We, then, will invite them to dinner and the movies (a few days after that, of course). If they'll still be excited to go with me, then you'll be OK.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07010105665796027175noreply@blogger.com