tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post6772570847142468591..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: T and Jim Back Togetherjimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-4015292518573039422013-10-20T14:45:15.660-04:002013-10-20T14:45:15.660-04:00How are you doing? I worry. HugsHow are you doing? I worry. HugsSunnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-69410670300909193462013-10-06T00:21:09.807-04:002013-10-06T00:21:09.807-04:00Sorry to hear that. You guys were my inspiration....Sorry to hear that. You guys were my inspiration.the island guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00355871943605164640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-5955182506708709282013-10-05T20:24:01.769-04:002013-10-05T20:24:01.769-04:00For a minute there I thought I was right.....give ...For a minute there I thought I was right.....give it time.<br /><br />New blog btw<br /><br />http://ijustwannabehappy2.blogspot.com/RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761591668246881356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-33861577922982379072013-10-01T15:36:22.182-04:002013-10-01T15:36:22.182-04:00Jim:
:( I'm sad for you, but I understand b...Jim:<br /><br />:( I'm sad for you, but I understand both of your struggles. good luck.Not Alonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10482405719386603047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-15352334158213012732013-09-26T23:56:04.432-04:002013-09-26T23:56:04.432-04:00Sad.
Best wishes Jim.Sad.<br />Best wishes Jim.JustAMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304812477710391158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-89382345165116699622013-09-15T18:35:41.943-04:002013-09-15T18:35:41.943-04:00I agree with the previous posts. Staying in touch...I agree with the previous posts. Staying in touch with T is just going to make parting that much more painful. Agree to chat 6 months from now but otherwise have no contact. Agree not to look at or reply to your respective blogs. If you should meet then do not talk about your love life. Ask about each others families and friends, and shared interests.<br /><br />Last summer I attended the wedding of a couple of gay friends. They met through Match.com. At the end of their first date they both admitted that their time together was just right. They agreed not to date anyone else there and then because each knew that he was talking to his future husband. No sex. No mad romantic gesture. They just knew after from a day spent together and the conversation that they were having. <br /><br />I know of far too many people, gay & straight, who found their spouses on Match.com. Give it a try. <br /><br />Dating is difficult. One meets lots of duds before Mr. Right walks into one's life but be persistent, he is out there.<br /><br />Best thoughts for both of you.<br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-43258307706124089962013-09-15T17:10:50.221-04:002013-09-15T17:10:50.221-04:00“If someone is not treating you with love and resp...“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn't walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don't need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.” <br />― Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom<br /><br />“In the track of fear we have so many conditions, expectations, and obligations that we create a lot of rules just to protect ourselves against emotional pain, when the truth is that there shouldn't be any rules. These rules affect the quality of the channels of communication between us, because when we are afraid, we lie. If you have the expectation that I have to be a certain way, then I feel the obligation to be that way.The truth is I am bot what you want me to be. When I am honest and I am what I am, you are already hurt, you are mad. Then I lie to you, because I'm afraid of your judgment. I am afraid you are going to blame me, find me guilty, and punish me.” <br />― Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship --Toltec Wisdom Book<br /><br />“Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don't like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. Then you make assumptions, and one of the assumptions is "My love will change this person." But this is not true. Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it's because they want to change, not because you can change them. Then something happens between the two of you, and you get hurt. Suddenly you see what you didn't want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison. Now you have to justify your emotional pain and blame them for your choices.” <br />― Miguel Ruiz<br /><br />I've been reading your blog on and off for a few years, and like the first commenter, I hoped for a different outcome. Mostly because I went through it for myself with my first partner of 17 years. <br /><br />If you can't take ALL of a person just the way he is right now, walk away. You won't change him, and he won't change you. <br /><br />Accept everything with a loving heart, or you will be miserable. <br /><br />Let him be free to find the perfect love as YOU are also free to find it.<br /><br />Cheers, blessings.<br />-jJeffreyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00011128913015546462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-49197377187112888492013-09-15T14:45:37.411-04:002013-09-15T14:45:37.411-04:00Oh man, Jim, that was cruel to us. I thought "...Oh man, Jim, that was cruel to us. I thought "finally" and then...bam...Guys, I want to slap you both. Don't you get it? You can't just slip from lovers to friends. You aren't even willing to invest emotions into someone else because all your heart is still with T (sorry, sounds sappy but seriously, can you even imagine kissing someone else?) And as long as you two have contact, talk to each other etc. it will take much longer, will hurt so much more to break this connection. I don't want to see either of you hurt. I got to like you both a lot from your blogs. But your relationship didn't work. Friendship might work...in a year or two, but seriously not now. <br /><br />And as long as you are so hurt, search your comfort somewhere else, try to be happy with yourself. Go bowling once a week, try a new gym, help at a dog shelter...do something not dating related because you are not up to that. <br />HugsSunnenoreply@blogger.com