tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post7496986043871157845..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: Finding God?jimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-28362552802692896572011-04-22T14:51:18.721-04:002011-04-22T14:51:18.721-04:00It would be great if Shawn could explore a little ...It would be great if Shawn could explore a little among different Christian denominations. Although it is really common certain believers to accept this kind of directly talking to God, I personally feel that it is theologically wrong (but what do I know) and a way of exercising control (but see last parenthetical phrase). How do you distinguish the "voice of God" from the voice of societal norm, superego, etc? I think Paul has it right. Thanks for sharing this poignant story.Jason_Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13081983776148674074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-5618883321669721022011-04-22T09:26:58.631-04:002011-04-22T09:26:58.631-04:00Because I have experienced this issue personally, ...Because I have experienced this issue personally, I agree with you about Shawn, in general. He needs to learn to love and accept himself. Since Shawn is a believer, he should also learn that God made him exactly the way God wanted him to be and that God loves him as he is. He has no right to argue with God. <br /><br />Having gratuitous sex with anyone (male or female) may give him the same reaction. Some people even feel guilty for masturbating because it does not serve a purpose or move you toward your goal of a LTR.<br /><br />Seems like Shawn needs to skip the shallow sex and find someone worthy of developing a relationship with (and develop that relationship before jumping into bed). Same goes for anyone looking for a LTR. One-night stands go against what he is looking for and makes him feel lessened. It's not that complicated really. <br /><br />If your goal is six-pack abs, you will always feel bad after eating that chocolate covered, cream-filled eclair....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-16286588174053063032011-04-21T15:11:49.306-04:002011-04-21T15:11:49.306-04:00I really feel for Shawn. I think it is possible i...I really feel for Shawn. I think it is possible if he really is bisexual to forget the gay side of himself if he finds the right woman. But a lot depends on him and how strong he is. Religious beliefs, family and general society is very motivating, but it really has to come from within, with who he really thinks he is. You are being a very supportive friend, despite your skepticism.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12775219683154536934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-40575094452175093372011-04-21T14:31:12.608-04:002011-04-21T14:31:12.608-04:00I've not commented on your blog before, that I...I've not commented on your blog before, that I can recall, but I read from time to time. <br /><br />This kind of thing really bothers me. I think you're absolutely right. It has to do with a level of fulfillment, not the wrongness. And, since when is God going to cure someone of the way they are born? <br /><br />You're also right that he will end up struggling with it again and again. Nobody ever was "cured" of being gay. They just learn to suppress what's natural to them until it blows up again in a few years.Mackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02417879115453658262noreply@blogger.com