tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post8885951019338786882..comments2023-12-24T15:38:38.348-05:00Comments on Conflicting Clarity: Not Sure What to Write...jimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16886998354761882106noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-1088210283709531092010-01-12T09:29:33.436-05:002010-01-12T09:29:33.436-05:00Venturing out on your own and finding yourself sho...Venturing out on your own and finding yourself shouldn't include a BF... The best advice I got before beginning My New Life, was to "date" and "socialize" but not get seriously involved with anyone for at least a year... Those of us that led one life (ie: married with kids) and then take that bold move out of the closet, have a lot to re-learn before complicating things with another relationship. In other words, You need to do this for yourself, not because you found someone you want to be with. I am 54 now and during that first year I had no problem dating and socializing, neither will you!Thomas (Tom) Rimingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02305225999248242356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-52778435823083615542010-01-10T12:40:39.475-05:002010-01-10T12:40:39.475-05:00Don't worry about things which are beyond your...Don't worry about things which are beyond your control. The "vaunted" gay culture is different for each of us. Chris writes a thoroughly entertaining blog and I missed him when he stopped for that 6 months, but his requirements are probably very different from yours. Take a deep breath and keep moving forward.manxxmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356862387136173023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-79041291681922849472010-01-10T03:41:39.067-05:002010-01-10T03:41:39.067-05:00I agree with the others. It's part of the &qu...I agree with the others. It's part of the "grass is greener" syndrome. You want what you can't have and I'm sure that once you have it, you won't want it. Things from your side of the fence look much better until you cross over the fence.<br /><br />I'm sorry it's lots of cliches, but I think they sum up quite well the way I see your situation.<br /><br />Wishing you lots of luck.<br /><br />http://idontunderstanditeither.blogspot.com/The Lion Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241533983667513498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-7122259150196690442010-01-09T22:19:38.979-05:002010-01-09T22:19:38.979-05:00I think Chris is right....you will find a very sha...I think Chris is right....you will find a very shallow, self centered rude culture that is not interested in guys over 40. The decent looking guys over 40 are looking for younger guys.<br /><br />It's frustrating....and can be lonely.RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761591668246881356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657524303983911401.post-8883185776521494352010-01-09T21:49:15.920-05:002010-01-09T21:49:15.920-05:00I have the urge to respond, but I really don't...I have the urge to respond, but I really don't know what to say. <br /><br />I'm glad I found your blog. Your journey is fraught with angst. I am sorely tempted to tell you to go easy on yourself, but I suspect you won't really hear me, so just forget I said anything. You write well. Your story is compelling. Keep it up.Javahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17377033663576614925noreply@blogger.com