Sunday, March 29, 2015

Balancing the Conflict to Clarity Ratio


When I started this blog back in 2009, I did it because I was in conflict and I wrote about it.  I often wrote about the same thing more than once, but each time approaching it from a slightly different angle until I had sorted things out in my head.    

Then after K and I divorced, I started to have more clarity and less conflict.   After T and I broke up, I started spending more time with the kids and that was a distraction for a while.  I had an on again / off again relationship with the Chef which caused a bunch of conflict.  I didn't have much of a urge to write about that.  Probably because in my mind I knew it was never going to amount to anything I the long run anyway. 

So even though there has been a bunch of stuff going on, there has not been a lot of movement, so there is not much to write about.  Or at least not much I felt motivated to write about.

That is until recently.  Some things have come up that are causing some changes in my life.  I am not 100% sure they are good changes, but they are changes nonetheless.  They are causing me to have more and more conflict and I am feeling the need to write about it. I don't know how long this new conflict will last before a reach a level of clarity where I stop writing again.  I have a feeling that there will be more.

I am noticing behavioral changes in myself.  Maybe that's good, maybe it's not.  I'm going to have to "talk" it out.  Since I really don't have anyone to talk to, I will write about it here.

If anyone still reads this, you are welcome to some along if you like.

3 comments:

Biki Honko said...

I"m still here, and still listening. Talk it out and find some clarity. It sure has helped me, blogging thru my issues.

Paul said...

Yes, talk! Blogging is therapeurtic.

Sunne said...

Oh...there you are. I had wondered if you'd stop writing but it's good to see you are back.
Write :)