First, First Date

So for the first time in 2 years I am having a first date tonight.  I told T about it and be has encouraged me to go. He says I have to meet people if I am to find someone to love and be my partner.  I told K about it too.  She was indifferent.  The guy I am seeing tonight is Indian (from India).  I seems he was born there, but has lived here for the last 23 years.  K asked me what was wrong with American guys.  "Are you dating the UN?" she asked.  Well there is nothing wrong with American guys, it's just this guy wrote to me first and wanted to meet.  I said yes.  


I am perfectly fine dating people of other races, but I might have make a rule about dating only people born in the US.  I don't have anything against foreign born people, but something came to my attention yesterday that made me think.


I talk to Emerging Identify regularly and lately we have been texting some.  I told him I was taking a class at work and she told me to try to stay awake.  I responded, "It's not easy".  his reply "Being green"


For a moment I was thinking since he is a west coast guy it might be an environmental reference, but then I heard Kermit in my hear singing that song I hears when I was a little kid.  Even thought he never talked to each other until a few months ago and we have never met in person, we shared this thing in common.  I understood the joke he was making because of this commonality.    I did not have that with T.  He did not come to the US until he was about 16 so his experiences growing up were different.  He would not have gotten that joke, or more correctly he would not have made the joke because it was outside his experience.  


I am wondering in my head if that kind of connection is important to me.  Right now, it seems to be, but I don't know.  


Anyway, I was supposed to be writing about my upcoming date.  I don't really want to go.  I know if I want to meet people I have to go out, but I am not sure I'm feeling it.  I am going to go and I will put on a happy face and hope that this guy turns out to be nice.  If nothing else I can make a friend.


I'll let you know how it goes.