Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Christmas Miracle? Maybe.


Cory and I got together about 3 times before I was scheduled to leave for a family vacation.  I went on a cruise with the kids, K, AJ, my mother and AJ's daughter and her BF.  (Yeah, 10 of us, but we all had a great time.)  In those times, the sex was better as we got to know each other better.  I also was starting to think I was wrong about him being deep in the closet.

After the cruise he told me he would meet me at the house and spend the night with me. This would be the first time anyone had stayed over since T and I broke up.  

Cory arrived at my house about 10 minutes after I got back from the airport.  I was greeted with a big kiss and a hug from his strong arms.  I could tell he really missed me and he was happy I was home.  It felt good that someone was there to greet me and had missed me while I was gone.

He stayed the night and spent the next day (which was a Sunday) hanging out and watching football.  At one point in the day my daughter came over.  He was very good with her and she seemed to like him.

At this point I am starting think he might just be the real thing.  He might be the person I have been looking for.  Maybe.  Or he might be too good to be true.  I did not want to get ahead of myself.  The Chef seemed to be the real thing for a while too, and that turned into a mess.


Cory is nice to talk to.  He has a deep, but soothing voice.  He also has a lot of his mind.  There is a lot of things he thinks about, but he doesn't really have anyone to talk to.  He says he likes that I listen to him.  Of course I will listen.  That's how you get to know people, right?

A few days after Cory greeted me from the cruise, he was planning to go to his home state for the Christmas holiday to visit his family.  All of his family was there and he had not seen his mom or grandmother in a long time.   Unfortunately, his plans fell through and he was going to be alone on Christmas.   

I invited him to come stay with me for Christmas.  I talked to K and he agreed to have him over to her place for Christmas dinner.  Cory agreed and he came to my house after work on Wednesday.  He packed enough to stay through the weekend.  Until Sunday!!!  I was not expecting that he would stay for 5 days, but I was really excited about it.  

We had a great time together.  We hung out with K and the kids.  We spent a lot of time back at my house alone.  Yes, there was a fair amount of sex, but there was intimacy on other levels too.  We spent a lot of time cuddling on the couch watch movies on TV.  We spent a lot of time naked in bed, talking in the dark about everything.   


It was not all naked cuddling.  We went out to for a meal several times.  We took my kids to see the new Star Wars movie.  My youngest son came over and watched TV with us for a couple of hours.

Little by little.  More and more. I was realizing I was falling in love with Cory.  Even K liked him.  I found out he was feeling the same way.   He told me about other guys he had met recently who did not seem interested to get to know him beyond his muscular body or the size of his penis.  He met some guys who were only interested because they have a fetish for black boys and wanted to get into his pants.  They had no interest in getting to know the man inside.  I was not treating him like a piece of meat, but as a whole person.  He liked that.  

I told him that,  of course I loved his body, I was not just looking for that.  I wanted a friend, a boyfriend, or in the best case, a partner and husband.   I wanted to get to know all of him. His body, yes, but also his heart, mind a soul.    Spending 5 days together, you can learn a lot about a person.  

So is Cory my Christmas miracle?  Maybe he is.  I can't say yet, but at this moment I am very happy.  I can clearly picture him living in my house and being my husband.  I am going to try hard not to push things, but rather go with the flow and enjoy the ride.   It's not easy for me, but I will try hard.  I don't want to screw this up.

6 comments:

RB said...

Hey....this is great. Sounds like the real thing. Awesome tht he spent five days with you.

I hope in a month you are feeling even better about this relationship!

Keep in mind also that the African-American community is not very accepting of gays. You will find a lot of DL guys here. It's harder for them than many other ethnicities. Maybe only Middle Eastern is worse.

Not Alone said...

Great for you!!!!! You must risk to find happiness. I'm glad you are taking a risk. Keep talking, and listening. Enjoy the moment, and respect each other.

Happy for you.

TwoLives said...

This is fantastic news! I'm so happy for both of you. May 2016 bring you two even closer together.

catrina said...

You spent FIVE days together??? Me and my now-husband never spent five days together until we actually lived together! If two people can spend five days together, not just alone, but with one's family, too, I can't imagine it being anything other than meant to be. I hope this is the start of something GREAT!

Anonymous said...

Congrats on your new black bf! I bet it's big :)

Anonymous said...

I'd love to know where you and Cory are now. Is there an update? :-)

In any event, having what the two of you had is special. Not many people have that experience. Kudos to you for stepping outside of you fears and allowing yourself to visualize what you did.