Today, after work, I am going to Atlanta to visit my oldest friend. I don't mean he is old, he's actually a year younger than I am, but I have known him and bed his friends sense second grade. He is my oldest friend.
After high school, my friend, let's call him Steve, joined the Navy. I went to college. His Navy career took him all over and for long periods of time, I lost touch with him. A few years ago I found out he was living in Atlanta with his wife and kids. We got together at his house when he retired from the Navy (yes, retired which means we are both old).
So about a month ago, we picked a date and I am going to travel to his house and visit him for the weekend. Now, here we are.
I have 2 objectives really. The first is to either tell him I am gay or confirm to him that I am gay. He might already know. If he looked up my dad's obit, then he already knows and I just need to talk to him about it. Make sure he is OK and see if he has any questions. I'd also like to tell him about T, if he's up to it.
Even though I has every expectation his reaction will be positive, I am still nervous.
My second objective of the trip is to re-connect with my old friend. We were really close at kids and I really have missed him over the years. I plan to drink some beers, smoke some cigars and have a good weekend.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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