I am not going to get into the long story as to why it did not work out, but it didn’t. The sad part is that he was VERY into me. He really wanted to be with me and I believe he could really see a future for us together. I was not on the same page.
I told him I didn't think we were compatible. He didn't agree. He thought we just needed to get to know each other better. I was frustrated that sometimes we seemed good together and then just minutes later, we were arguing about something. Or something I said upset him.
We even took a weekend away together. I thought that would help. It made it worse. The 5 hour drive back from that trip was very uncomfortable.
When he finally got the hint that I didn't want to go any further with him, he became very upset. He told me the time we had together was a waste of his life (3 months) and then said, “Thanks for being so fake!”
That stung a more than little, but that’s where i cut it off. I stopped responding to his messages.
Yesterday he reached out and apologized for saying what he said. He informed me that he was taking a transfer with his company to another of their properties in California. He asked me to meet him to this afternoon for coffee, one last time. He is leaving in September.
I have been thinking over the past few weeks about why this did not work out with him. I thought he was physically attractive. He was nice to me and went out of this way to make time to see me. He bought me a case of my favorite British hard cider that is not easy to get here in the states. He had a good job, a stable lifestyle, and no more drama than anyone else. He wanted to same things out of the relationship that I did. What’s more he wanted them with me. I should jumped at this. I should bent over backwards to keep him.
But I didn't. Why?
I don’t think I have to look far for the answer.