Friday, April 20, 2012

Getting back to Normal



It has been a long time since I have posted anything.  There is a lot going on, but things are starting to return to normal.  Well, normal for me anyway.


Last weekend I took my kids to my dad's funeral.  It was too far to drive so we flew most of the way.  Me and 4 kids. K did not come, she had too many other things to do. (which was fine with me)  You always here traveling with kids is night mare, but not with my kids.  It could have been bad, but my kids are so awesome, we traveled with no problems.  We had a good trip and we gave me dad the send off that he deserved and that my mom envisioned.  We will miss him all the time, but it is time to get back to normal.


I work is very busy too.  We have a major product roll out coming fast.  I have a lot to do to get ready for that, but I am waiting on others to finish their work before I can do my work.


But some things have happened that I really wanted to talk about.


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To get from my mother's house to the town where we buried my dad required a 5 hour ride in the car.  As we drove, mom and I talked about a lot of things.  One of the thing I told I was happy about is that my dad got to know who I really am before he died.  He knew I am gay.  He knew T and he accepted both of us.


Then my mom told me that my dad was happy about my current relationships.  He was happy that I was with T and that we clearly love each other.  


That made me happy.


I got even happier on Tuesday night.  I went to visit T and while we were laying on his bed watching TV, and he handed me a card.  It was a Thank-You card that my mother sent to T. I ready what she wrote and it was very sweet.   I am not going to say what she wrote here, but it made me want to cry.


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After I saw T, and I was heading home I stopped at the 24-hour Wal-mart to pick up a couple of things.  As I wondered the store, I saw these 2 guys shopping together.  One white and one black.  The white guy seemed normal enough, but the black was GGAAYY!!  I watched them for a while and even discreetly followed them to another aisle.


It was cute to watch them.  It was clear they were in love and just liked being together.  I was not really thinking about them.  I was thinking about T and me.


I wish it was us doing things together, even things as mundane as grocery shopping.

1 comment:

Buddy Bear said...

I'm glad you and your family got through your father's funeral. I'm sorry for your loss.

Congratulations on the many things in your post which are to be thankful for. It was so supportive of your mother to write T the note. Good news indeed!

Funnily enough, in our Wal-Mart, I saw a gay couple much like you described, both white, but a smokin' hot extremely gay mid 20s guy and his late 30s partner. They looked so sweet doing their grocery shopping! I followed them down an aisle or two before I felt too much like a stalker and abandoned the idea.