Sunday, November 4, 2012

Nude Group

I don't think I mentioned that I attended a meeting of a MeetUp group for gay dads.  (Not "daddies", gay men with kids.)  I can talk more about that later.  But one of the guys there told me about a nude men's discussion group he attends on occasion.  Me and another guy at the meeting were interested in going.

This is not a sex group.  These are nudists.  They have a topic each week they discuss for the first hour.  Then, they have a dinner.  Everyone brings something and they hang around, eat, drink and talk... naked.  He told me the age range of the group was 40 to 70 and and the men were of varying fitness levels.  He also said there was a hard rule (no pun intended) that no sex is allowed at any time.  No one touches anyone else.  When the occasional erection happens, nude etiquette says to cover it up until it goes away. (I am not exactly sure how they do that.  Maybe with the required towel for sitting.) 

I sounded interesting to me and I have never been to anything that is nudist related.  I have always wanted to and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to try it out.  I was looking forward to it and I mentioned it to T.

"You want to go where?" he said.  

He was not thrilled about the idea.  We talked about it and at the end he told me to do what I want.  I could tell he was not happy about it.  I am sure he didn't understand why I felt the need to hang out with other naked guys.

I was still resolved to go, it was something I have always wanted  to do, but now I was having some doubts. K happened to stop over my house to look through some boxes she had left there.  I told her about my dilemma.

"You want to go where?" she asked.

She said a bunch of other stuff too and ended with, "Have you completely lost your mind?"  

"But I have never done anything like this before, and I..."  I said.

She cut me off, "Well, you've never shot up heroin before either.  Is that next?" 

I was not exactly sure what to say to that.  While I didn't really see the connection between hardcore drug use and nudity,  I was thinking about this group in a different way now.  

At the end of the day, I decided not to go.  While I am curious about the whole nudist thing, I am not curious enough.  T and I just got back together,  and I really don't want to do anything to upset him.  I was also taken off guard by K's negative reaction so maybe this was not such a good idea in the first place.

So Tuesday night, instead of being at the nude group meeting, I will be with the kids, while K has volleyball tryouts. 


Anonymous said...

Honestly dude a nude discussion group???? Sometimes gay men are simply fucking wierd?!

jim said...

Well, when you say it like that, it does sound a little strange...

Buddy Bear said...

I would definitely have gone to the nude discussion group but would not have told anyone about it before hand. You never know; you might have enjoyed it.

Last summer, a friend convinced me to check out Toronto's nude beach. I didn't that it would be my cup of tea but it turned out that I absolutely LOVED it there.

My only concern about the discussion group was the age range. I'm not sure that I'd want to look at a bunch of naked, elderly men. Ewww!! If only there was a nude group involving hottie men in their 20s and 30s. Sign me up!!

JiM said...

Nude is not lewd, it is about being comfortable with your self image. Along with coming out this for most individuals is a huge step towards a healthy centering of your being. I find those against it are so insecure that they have to ridicule those open to it, Go to Europe, the nakid body is not a big deal. Enjoy the freedom of dropping all trappings of what or how you are defined by the outside world.

Anonymous said...

To get nude with other men is difficult the first time, and other's negativity reflect's their own difficulty, not a more level "No harm in it, why not try something and make an informed decision?" You may like it - I hope you do - and you may not, in which case with no harm done you will know yourself better. As for age and shape, few of us are perfect, and finding that we are basically all the same ne way or another is enormously reassuring for self-image. Yes, I speak from experience!

Anonymous said...

If you're 50 lbs overweight, then this is not such a good idea.