I don't think I mentioned that I attended a meeting of a MeetUp group for gay dads. (Not "daddies", gay men with kids.) I can talk more about that later. But one of the guys there told me about a nude men's discussion group he attends on occasion. Me and another guy at the meeting were interested in going. This is not a sex group. These are nudists. They have a topic each week they discuss for the first hour. Then, they have a dinner. Everyone brings something and they hang around, eat, drink and talk... naked. He told me the age range of the group was 40 to 70 and and the men were of varying fitness levels. He also said there was a hard rule (no pun intended) that no sex is allowed at any time. No one touches anyone else. When the occasional erection happens, nude etiquette says to cover it up until it goes away. (I am not exactly sure how they do that. Maybe with the required towel for sitting.) I sounded interesting to me and I have never been to anything that is nudist related. I have always wanted to and this seemed like the perfect opportunity to try it out. I was looking forward to it and I mentioned it to T. "You want to go where?" he said. He was not thrilled about the idea. We talked about it and at the end he told me to do what I want. I could tell he was not happy about it. I am sure he didn't understand why I felt the need to hang out with other naked guys. I was still resolved to go, it was something I have always wanted to do, but now I was having some doubts. K happened to stop over my house to look through some boxes she had left there. I told her about my dilemma. "You want to go where?" she asked. She said a bunch of other stuff too and ended with, "Have you completely lost your mind?" "But I have never done anything like this before, and I..." I said. She cut me off, "Well, you've never shot up heroin before either. Is that next?" I was not exactly sure what to say to that. While I didn't really see the connection between hardcore drug use and nudity, I was thinking about this group in a different way now. At the end of the day, I decided not to go. While I am curious about the whole nudist thing, I am not curious enough. T and I just got back together, and I really don't want to do anything to upset him. I was also taken off guard by K's negative reaction so maybe this was not such a good idea in the first place. So Tuesday night, instead of being at the nude group meeting, I will be with the kids, while K has volleyball tryouts.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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