It does not happen often, but once in a while I get surprised. T is very predictable. (No, honey, I am not saying you are boring.) He works a lot, his work happens on a schedule, so his discretionary time is predictable. It actually makes it easier for us to get together since my kid-driven schedule is kind of crazy. On Thursday I was with my kids, and I promised the younger two, they could stay at my house on Friday night. T and I rarely see each other on Fridays, and since K and AJ like to go out, it makes it good for everyone if I take the younger kids to my house. On Friday morning, I got a text from T. "Want to meet me for diner tonight?" Just getting a text from T at all during the work day is unusual, but getting invited to dinner with short notice, is almost unheard of. Of course I told him I wanted to go, but I would have to see if I was OK with the kids. Since I had promised them, I didn't just want to ditch them. "Where do they want to go?" came the next question. So not only was T inviting me out, he want the kids to come too. (How can you not love this man??)
After work, I headed to K's house, packed up the kids and headed to a restaurant about half between my house and his office. It was not a romantic dinner, but it was another night, that I thought would never happen. It was extraordinary, in its ordinariness. It was just a man and his partner and his kids our for dinner. What's so strange about that?
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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