I have roommate. Well, a housemate really. Let's call him "Fred". I rent a room in my house to this guy. I met him randomly. He posted an ad on Craigslist looking for a room for himself and his dog. He is straight, older and not very attractive. He is, however, very gay-friendly. His dog is a beautiful 4 year old husky. She is a little high strung but otherwise well behaved. He actually has a pretty good deal. He pays a flat rent that includes everything. My mortgage is pretty reasonable so it's a good deal for me too. Aside from the money, it's a good deal for him, because he basically has use my whole house, except the other bedrooms. Over the past month I have been working a lot. Long hours at the office. When I am at K's house, I am often working there. When I am at home, I sometimes work in the office I have set up in the extra bedroom across the hall from mine until 1 or 2 in the morning. The other day, I came home for about 5 minutes before heading out again. Fred was making dinner for himself. He was trying to make conversation as I was heading for the door. Normally I would stop and engage him, but today I was in a hurry. "You work too much! You should stay home and relax more." He said as I closed the door. I drove away thinking about it. Between work and keeping track of my kids, it is very common for me to leave my house at 6:30am and not return until after 9:30pm. I guess I do work too much.
But why not? I mean, it's not like I have any reason to go home, right? There's nothing there for me. It's just a building where I keep my stuff. There is no one home who misses me. There is no one there who cares if I am there or not. There is nothing there to make it a home.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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