Last night I was getting my daughter ready for bed. She had just gotten out of the shower and I was toweling her hair dry when the phone rang. It was T.
Me: Hello? T: I just wanted to call and tell you I love you. Me: I love you too. Let me finish here and I'll call you back. T: OK. Talk to you later.
After I hung up the phone, my daughter asked me who was calling. I told her it was T.
"How come you told him 'I love you'?" she asked. "Well, T is very special to me." I answered. (she is 7) "I've heard a boy tell a girl 'I love you' or a girl tell a boy, but never a boy tell a boy." She continued.
Without getting into too much detail with her, I told her that sometimes boys like other boys and girls like other girls and that's OK. She seemed to accept that answer and went on to the next thing,
Almost a year ago, K and I sat down the 3 boys and we told them I am gay and T is my boyfriend. We did not tell my daughter because we figured she was too young. But we always said if she asked questions we would tell her the truth.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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