The date for my dad's funeral is set. It's a Saturday in a few weeks. It will be in the little town here was born, about 300 miles from my mom's house.
I looked at the calendar after the date was set and discovered my youngest son has a school trip to the beach that week. He's been looking forward to that all year. The trip ends on Friday and I may be able to get a Friday night flight. I think K will take the other kids the day before.
So why am I selfish? Because I still want T to come with me. If we left on Friday and returned on Sundays, he would only miss one day at work. I knew what the answer would be before I asked. He can't. Saturday is supposed to be a short day, the in reality he generally see the the same number of patients as a weekday. The office is supposed to close at 2:00 but they are frequently there until 6:00.
He is worried about how crazy it would be for his sister if he's not there. He is worried about how long the patients will wait. And I even know he is worried about not being there for me when I need him. I know he thinks about all of it. In the end, though, the office won out over me.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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