I went to K's today after work. I took my oldest son to Game Stop to get "Mass Effect 3" He pre-purchased the game back in December as a Christmas present. I stopped at the grocery store for a few items K asked me to get so she could make dinner.
I hung out there for dinner and then long enough to put the kids to bed. As she was cooking dinner she was showed me a video (here) that she is using in the youth classes at her church job. It's about a 4 min video. It's kind of funny and worth watching. In a nut shell, it's about the people have all kinds of good things yet they bitch and complain about everything.
I made a comment that I thought she could learn from that. Her life is pretty good. "Yeah, right" she said. **Sigh**
When dinner was over and the kids were in bed, her and AJ sat down with me at the table. AJ just for a new cell phone so he was preoccupied with that. K was looking up cruises for the family to take in May of 2013 when she finishes school. Her plan is to take a huge family vacation with her and AJ, his daughter, my kids and me. She even wants T to come. We would need 2 or 3 cabins depending on the ship. Sound's like a lot of fun, right? Maybe, maybe not. She was looking at 8 day cruises. I suggested since the kids had never been on a cruise before, maybe a shorter one would be good for the first time. Maybe a 4 day cruise.
That did not go well. She looked at me like I had just told her that AJ and I were having an affair. She told me that when she had to get off the boat after the 4th day she would be "furious". The she went on and on about how a 4 day trip on a luxary cruise ship was completely unacceptable.
I was thinking that she should re-watch that video. I stopped talking, and when she was done, I suggested that I did realize that it was only her opinion that mattered. She didn't like that either. I guess control freaks don't like to be called control freaks.
I started to think that maybe I should just let her go on the trip by herself with the kids. I know that a lot of you will think that is the best. I'm sure that T would think that is best. It might be, but then I think about the kids.
I would hate to miss that experience with them. I would want to be part of their memories of their first cruise. Also, let's face it, as they get older, there will be fewer and fewer family vacations. Also, if the kids are there and I am not, K will turn into a train wreck and no one will have fun. At least if I am there, I can insulate the kids and they will have a good time with me.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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