Monday, April 12, 2010

That's What Living Is To Me...

Be good and you will be lonesome
Be lonesome and you will be free
Live a lie and you will live to regret it
That's what living is to me
That's what living is to me
- Jimmy Buffett

I like Jimmy Buffett.   Shortly after we got married I dragged K to a Buffett concert kicking and screaming and about 4 hours later she became a full fledged parrot-head too.

I always have enjoyed his music, but until recently I have not really paid that not much attention to the words.  Jimmy has a unique way for looking at the world and sometimes it resonates with me.  The words of this particular song is resonating with me.  

"Live a lie and you will live to regret it"  Boy, is that true.  

Bear me out  commented on my last posting, saying that he has stopped looking back at the things he could have done differently.  I think he is right and I am working to move in that direction, but it will take some time for me to get there.  

I don't know if I have any younger guys who read this.  The guy who is still in the closet, but has not married or seriously dated a woman.  If I was to counsel that guy, I would tell him to come out of the closet today.  Yes, there might be come consequences if his friends and family are not gay friendly, but DON'T LIVE THE LIE!!  You WILL live to regret it.

I am glad I am not living a lie anymore.  I still have a way to go to be fully authentic, but the hardest part is over.  I am well on my way.

1 comment:

Ktor said...

I certainly have to agree with you. I came out in December of 2008 after being with a woman for 12 years. If I could do it all over yes I would have not gotten involved but it's done.

You can't keep yourself mired in the past. It has made you who you are today. Don't forget it but don't let it run the present.