After a good vacation with my family it was time for the kids and I to return home. We drove overnight Saturday into Sunday arriving mid morning Sunday. I had planned to take Monday & Tuesday off anyway so I had a couple of days to decompress before heading back to work tomorrow. I had a good visit with my family but I was really glad to be sleeping in my own bed. (I'm not sure who took that picture of me sleeping.)
This afternoon I went to have the first sit down meeting with my lawyer about my divorce. I really think they don't know how to deal with me. Because the divorce complaint was initiated by me the lawyer told me K will have to be served by the sheriff.
Me: The sheriff? Can't I just give her a copy? Lawyer: What? Me: I will see K this afternoon, can I just giver her a copy? Lawyer: Are you friendly enough with her to do that? Me: Yeah. I think it will be OK.
Then we were talking about the division of property document. The lawyer drew it up based on a worksheet he gave me to fill out. K actually filled out most of it for me. Under state law, she has 30 days to review and respond to the proposal. K and I are both eager to get this all done.
Me: Do we have to wait 30 days? Lawyer: Yes. The law said she has to have time to review and respond to our proposal. Me: What if she agrees? Can she waive the 30 days? Lawyer: (staring blankly) That... um... never happens. Me: Look, I told you that this would be an easy divorce. K actually wrote most of the worksheet I sent you back. Lawyer: (staring blankly) Um... OK... well... if she signs the agreement then that should be OK.
I spent about 20 minutes with the lawyer, wrote him a check for the court costs (from K's checking account) and I was on my way for paper's for her and I to sign and get back to the lawyer.
Later tonight I am going to run down to T's place. I will be the first time I have seen him in 2 weeks. I can't stay too long, but I just can't wait any longer to see him.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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