Both K and I got a letter in the mail from my lawyer's office. There were a bunch of papers in there, but they all mostly said the same thing:
Monday, November 14, the marriage that K and I entered into back in 1993, will be over.
I have said it before, that I am not upset by this. I mean, she has already moved into a new house with her boyfriend. It's not like I have any hope of her running back into my arms so I can go back to my straight life. And, oh yeah, I'm still gay. I am still in love with a man. I still cannot go back into the closet.
But it is another milestone on the journey. It is another change. On top of all the other change I am dealing with, it is one more thing to pile on my plate.
In other news, I was at the local community college today. I had to visit the academic advising center. When I walked in there was this kid there who asked if he could help me. I say kid because I think he was born when I was in college the first time. It turns out he did not know any more than what was written in the course catalog that I already had. So told him what I wanted to do. He entered some stuff in the computer and now I can register for classes in the middle of next month.
I did find that not all the classes I want are offered when I need them. I may have to take some classes at another community college. It is further away, but I think I can swing it. I hope my car will hold out.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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