I'm a gay man who married his best friend and started a family. Now I'm divorced and still trying to come to terms with who I am and what I want in life.
For an unemployed bum, I seem to be pretty busy. I have sent out several resumes this week. I have not had many interviews, and the ones I did have, all hired someone else. I have enrolled in two different schools. The one closer to my house does not have the classes I need often enough. The one that does, is further away. Grrrr.
My life is mostly stable. My relationship with K is pretty good. I'm even getting allog well with AJ. I relationship with T is going well, even though I don't get to see him as often as I want.
I have good days and bad days dealing with the uncertainty of going back to school without a plan for how I will support myself. Somedays I feel really zen about it, sure that it will all work out somehow. Other days I am freaked because I am diving in without a clear plan.
I think I should be writing here more often, but I seems like there is not a lot to say. There is not a lot of movement. There is not a lot of drama. So there is not much interesting going on so there is not much interesting to write about. I don't want this to become a whining blog (anymore than it already is)
There are some milestones coming up. My divorce will be final in 17 days. I am thinking of selling my house and moving into a small apartment. In 2 years when I start PA school, I may have to move again. The school is almost an hour and a half from my house. I will probably have to find something closer, but not too far from my kids.
In some areas of the country the rental market is heating up. Rents in my county are up 10% vs. last year. You might take a look at what your cash flow would be if you rent your house out vs. selling it. Just an idea.
I've * just now found & am admiring & therefore following your blog.
You're probably needing the services of a certified financial planner (CFP) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Financial_planner . As to what you should now do with your house, I'm suggesting that you ask T to help you locate & visit a CFP near you & get the CFP's advice.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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In some areas of the country the rental market is heating up. Rents in my county are up 10% vs. last year. You might take a look at what your cash flow would be if you rent your house out vs. selling it. Just an idea.
Hello, Jim,
I've * just now found & am admiring & therefore following your blog.
You're probably needing the services of a certified financial planner (CFP) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Financial_planner . As to what you should now do with your house, I'm suggesting that you ask T to help you locate & visit a CFP near you & get the CFP's advice.
Bill
* I'm in Winston-Salem.
I know every thing, but Jim doesn't want to listen to me... :)
T...
More's the pity that Jim won't take your advice!
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