He thinks that it is good that I am working hard to be supportive of her and begin there for K as much as I can. I do that because I want to (she is my best friend) not to mention it is the right thing to do. I don't expect that I will stop anytime soon. I expect that I will be much closer to K and most gay men are with their ex-wives.
This has been one of my goals all long. Even if I find the perfect partner (whether this is T or not) I doubt I could be happy if I had a hostile relationship with K. I think I am doing many of the right things. Of course I am still working on making things better for me and her and the kids.
K and I are still considering the possibility of houses where we can both live with the kids and each have our own space and lives. Will that work forever? Probably not. I expect I will either commit to T or I will start dating and find a man who can be my partner and i will want to be with him. I think that sooner or later, K will start dating and I think it will be easy for her to find a man that will love her in the way she wants and deserved. When that happens, I doubt she (and/or her new man) will really want the gay ex-husband hanging around all the time.
For the time being, I will keep walking the road in the best way I know how.
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I'd say you're doing a great job of being mindful of K and her needs. T appears to be moving forward also. I remember previous postings in which, whilst he enjoyed you as a "boyfriend" he was also hesitant about that situation.
Keep up the good work.
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