I'm a gay man who married his best friend and started a family. Now I'm divorced and still trying to come to terms with who I am and what I want in life.
I have less than two week left. In less than two weeks, I will have a lot more freedom to do... well... I don't exactly know what I will do, but if I want to I can.
K's sports season is almost over. The tournaments and all the associated practices will be over and that will free up a lot of time. Not that I will have total freedom. I mean, K will want to have time for herself too and I will want to be spending time with the kids (and her too). What I will have, that I have not had since August, is flexibility.
There are a few things I want to do in the short term:
I want to attend a dinner or two with a MeetUp group.
There are 2 gay bowling leagues in the city and their seasons end at the end of April. I want to to the the bowling ally and check them out before the season is over, so when I go to join at the end of next summer, I will know what to expect.
There is a national group called "Frontrunners" http://www.frontrunners.org/ that has a chapter in the nearby city. They are a running/walking club for GLBT people. They meet on Saturday morning and Monday evenings. I want to go to where they meet and check them out as well, but I think I can join up with them at anytime.
On top of that, I want to see T more. Once a week is not enough. Twice a week is better, but I also want to see if I can to better than that.
I know that I can't do everything, but since I have done nothing for so long, I feel like I just need to get out and do as much as I can.
Why do you have to fit anywhere? Go out to make friends and have fun. Don't go out just to feel fit in. Come and sit on the swing with me. You can fish at the pond. Then, we'll have dinner with my family...you'll fit in well...:)))
I know what you mean life and obligations can overcome you. Even though you're constantly busy it makes you wonder where do I fit in. Family and friends know who you are and where you fit in but there's the question you keeping hearing. Where is my place, where do I fit? Remember, just like Dorothy, you may only have to click together your own ruby red slippers, because there's really no place like home and it sounds like T is a happy fit. Let me know if the fish are biting......
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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Why do you have to fit anywhere? Go out to make friends and have fun. Don't go out just to feel fit in. Come and sit on the swing with me. You can fish at the pond. Then, we'll have dinner with my family...you'll fit in well...:)))
I know what you mean life and obligations can overcome you. Even though you're constantly busy it makes you wonder where do I fit in. Family and friends know who you are and where you fit in but there's the question you keeping hearing. Where is my place, where do I fit? Remember, just like Dorothy, you may only have to click together your own ruby red slippers, because there's really no place like home and it sounds like T is a happy fit. Let me know if the fish are biting......
Hmmm...Stephen! No fish will be biting if Jim is going to wear ruby red slippers!!!
:)))
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