Monday, August 31, 2009

Getting the message, going slow,

So over the past few days I have heard one message loud and clear. Many of my blogger friends agree, I have to move out to move on and the sooner the better.

I'm not ready to do that just yet. I can see the day, I think it will be soon (relatively speaking) that I will be able to, but I just don't want to rush it. I have to first find a place. K & I need to figure out how the tell the kids. From their perspective, it will come out of the blue. I just think to suddenly have daddy live somewhere else one day, is not good.

It seems that many guys do not immediately come out to their kids. My kids have a 8 year span from the oldest to the youngest. The older ones might be able to understand "gay" but I doubt the younger ones will. I guess I'm getting ahead of myself.

K works most of the day Sunday's and weekday evenings in the fall. I have not seen much of her in the past 2 days, but the interactions we have had, have boon pleasant. We have not re-visited my moving out or our other issues since Friday night. I'm glad we still have other things to talk about besides all gay all the time.

1 comment:

manxxman said...

Being gay is only a part of who you certainly not what you're a father, a husband (in what ever form), a son, a sibling.....will you get the idea.

In my experience kids of parents who separate and do it in a loving manner are so much better off. Yes it can be a bit confusing, but it does work.