I have written before about this gay event that happens about once a month. The last time I was resolved to go to one of these things, I chickened out. I found out this yesterday there is another of them tomorrow (Thursday). I was thinking about going but I was not sure, since my last experience did not go very well. But I also know that I have do put myself out there, since I am not going to meet very many people in my kitchen.
I was talking to T on Tuesday and I reminded him that last time he said he would go with me to the next one of these events. He agreed. I was so excited not to have to go by myself.
My boss is gay. He recently traveled to Massachusetts and got married to his partner of 25 years. He knows I am gay. There is a woman I work with who also knows I am gay. She is a lesbian who has been with her partner for 16 years. While a lot of people at work know I am getting divorced, no one outside of these two, know that I am gay. This includes a bunch of others that I know to be gay, who will probably be at this event.
So anyway, I told my boss and the lesbian that T was going to come to this event with me. They have not met him, but I have talked about to him a lot. I thought it would be cool for them to meet him.
Just to today. I was thinking about this event tomorrow. I was happy that T will meet me. I will meet him and then we will go to the pub together. Then it hit me.
After this event, I will be out at work.
There are several people I work with who go to these events. Some are gay and some are not. If I go alone, people may assume that I am just there to hang out with fun people. If I show up there with a man, that will send another message. (And by T's description, being there with an Asian guy, will telegraph to everyone that I am queer as a 3 dollar bill.
I am not really worried about something bad happening. Anyone who would see me there would be gay friendly. The company I work for is basically gay friendly too, so there is not really any risk there. But I did not even think when I made the plan, that I would be taking the step of effectively coming out at work.
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