"It was one bad day and it won't be the last one, but the new normal will come and it will be OK."
My sister reads this blog and while she does not comment publicly, I often get private messages about things I write. As expected, last nights posting drew a comment, specifically the one listed above. She also pointed out that going back into the closet was not really an option.
So with the drama of last night behind me, I spent most of the day with K and the younger two kids. After my daughter's softball game we did some shopping. All day long we talked about them sleeping at my house tonight. Because K works on Sunday, they will spend the bulk of tomorrow with me as well.
After out running around, we all went to K's house for dinner (hell, yeah, I will let her cook) and to pack over night bags. After dinner we (the kids and me) piled into my minivan and headed to my house. We set of sleeping bags for everyone and then got everyone to sleep.
As I am typing this, I am in my very quiet house. I am feeling at peace. There are 4 separate pieces of my soul in the upstairs bedrooms fast asleep.
Before I head off to bed, I need to thank T for loving me as much as he does. We were supposed to go out tonight. It had been planned for several days now. After the meld down from yesterday, I was able to work out a "do over" wit the kids tonight. As much as I know we wanted to see me, he did not bat an eye, but said only, "kids first" when I sent him a text saying I would not be able to come to his house this weekends.
He really is a awesome guy and I am lucky to have him.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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