I have heard it said that the only thing more annoying than a smoker is an ex-smoker. There are some people who are anti smoking advocates, but the ex-smoker is the most committed. The most militant. The one most interested in curing your smoking habit.
Ex smokers are everywhere you are trying to smoke. Giving you the look. Wagging their fingers and their tongues. Tell you about the dangers of smoking. Tell you how they if they can quit anyone can quit. They tell you how much better they feel. How much money they are saving.
On and on they go. They never stop. Even if they do not say it, they make you feel like you are bad person because you still enjoy your smoke.
I do not smoke cigarettes, but I do enjoy a nice cigar out on my back porch in the evening once in a while.
I have been reading over at "If I Do the Right Thing" and he has posted a couple times about gay married men who do not want to come out. I have written about this in the past and it is clear that I have strong feelings about it.
If a man is having sex with anyone that is not his wife and she does not know about it, he is cheating and that is wrong. It is not wrong because I say so, it is wrong because the wife will think so when she find out. It does not matter if the person he is cheating with is a man or a woman. If the wife thinks it's cheating then it's cheating.
I have written about the plight of the straight spouse before and I am not not going to re-hash that today. (Here is one)
I left a fairly harsh comment on "Two Lives" post from yesterday. After I thought about it a little, I was starting to feel like an ex-smoker. I am not one to tell others how to live their lives, but I have to admit that I am often too free with my opinions.
Now that I am starting to experience some of the up side of being out of the closet, and I see even better days ahead, I think everyone should. I know what works for me may not work for everyone, but I still have my opinions.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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