I am going to get part of my dream to come true today. Those who have been following me for a while know that I have certain visions that mean success. I have written before about one of them. Thanksgiving dinner. K and I talked about the ideal outcome of our transition and spending Thanksgiving dinner together as a new family. With T and K and AJ, my kids, all sitting down together go give thanks for all the good things in our lives.
My reality is not going quiet as well. K knew what time I had to leave to have dinner with T and his family. I am not sure she did it intentionally, but she dragged her feet on getting her turkey in the oven so I am very close to having to choose between having Thanksgiving dinner with my kids or my boyfriend. I could have easily had both if she had not taken so long. Fortunately, I told K, T's family was eating at 6:00, when they are actually eating at 7:00. That will save me today.
Am I upset about it? Not really. After all, most of what I have been dreaming about is going to come true. K and I still have a really good relationship, even though we are officially divorced. (There really has been no change). I am thankful for that. A negative relationship would be bad for me, but it would also make it much harder for the kids.
I am thankful. I am thankful I have been able to transition from frustrated closeted gay who was terrified to be who he really is, to being comfortable gay dad with a boyfriend henis deeply (and openly) in love with. I am thankful my kids have taken the transition with little or no negative impact. I am VERY thankful I have found a man who loves me in spite of all my faults and flaws. I am not so thankful I don't have a job, but I am thankful that I have a good direction and support to help me get there.
I am thankful for this blog, the people who read it, and especially the people who comment to offer their love and support.
All and all I have a pretty good life. I know there are a lot of people who have it WAY worse than me. I also know I am on a good path and things will only get better. I'm thankful for that too.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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