I am getting more and more comfortable with the idea that K and I will be divorced soon. I am looking around my house and thinking about the things I will change when she and kids are moved out.
The first thing is I will be moving back into the master bedroom. After all I do pay the friggin mortgage, and I am sleeping in one of the smaller bedrooms. The worst part of my current situation is I have to walk all the way down the hall to use the bathroom at night.
This morning I got a copy of the official complaint that my lawyer will file at the courthouse. I am listed as the plaintiff and K is listed as the defendant. (She called me and joked that she was not happy about that...) I also got a worksheet that we have to fill out that will tell the lawyer how to list the distribution of property.
We are agreed on most everything already, we just need to write it down. Since I will be staying in the house and will have to pay for it myself, I worked out a budget for myself, including money I will put toward the support of the kids and cash I will pay to her for the kids. I am not paying her alimony and she has not asked for it. I told her that I might be able to skimp on some things and giver her more, but she told me that, "you have to live too." which I thought was nice.
What we did not get from is something to work out custody of the kids. If we have agreed to 50/50 custody, even thought they will mostly live with her, do we still have to mess with paperwork? If we do nothing, is joint custody assumed?
The truth is, just like she trusts me not to screw her financially, I trust that she will not screw me with respect to the kids. (It helps that I know she is very scared that the kids will blame her for the divorce.) I will ask more questions of the lawyer on that later.
If we can get all our information quickly, I could be a single man by the end of the summer. K will be a single woman. AJ is waiting for the divorce to be final before he pops the question to K, even though he has already purchased a ring so her singly life will likely be short lived.
Tonight I drove to T's house for a little while. Once of the nice things about the summer time, is that even if I cannot get to T's house until the early evening, it is still day light. I took this picture of his Koi pond. We sat next to the water tonight and as he fed the fish, I listened to the sound of the waterfall. As the sun was setting, I kept thinking, how much I wanted to be with him.
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