Sunday, March 14, 2010

Maybe They Can Make It

I went to see "Hank" this afternoon and we talked his obsession with "Steve".  He was bubbling over with excitement.  Apparently, over the past 2 days they had spent something like 5 or 6 hours either on the phone or on Yahoo Messenger talking.  That's saying something.  I have known Hank for more than 2 decades and he does not even talk to me that much.

"Steve is exactly the type of man I am looking for."

"Steve 'gets me' like no one else, and he says I get him too" 

"Steve wants a man to love him and he wants to be loved in return."

"Steve likes so many of the same things I like.  Sometimes it feels like we have been boing things together for a long time."

"Steve makes me feel special and says I make him feel special too." 

"Steve and I talk for hours at a time.  We talk about all kinds of things.  No matter how long we talk,  I always feel like there is more to say when it is time to hang up."

And he went on like this for a while, maybe the better part of an hour.  I was starting the see that maybe his obsession was not an obsession at all.  He was actually falling in love with Steve.  He was happy in a way that I had not seen him in a long time.  I could see it in his eyes.

I made the decision to be supportive in this.  I did tell him I thought he should be cautious and remember that there are missing pieces that you don't see until you meet someone in person.  But I also told him that I think he should pursue this relationship with the hope they will find a way to make it work.

I think he was pleased that I was supportive.  I told him with all the loneliness in the world, if he has a chance to find the man of his dreams, I am not going to stand in his way of discourage him.

1 comment:

TwoLives said...

I applaud your decision to support him, even if this tech-affair some day ends in disaster.

In the run, most people want friends who support them no matter what. Negative but wise friends just aren't as much fun.