Last night after work I hit the gym before going home. When I got there I found K making a
meal of grilled steak & and chicken, corn on the cob,and a salad made with lettuce she grew in the garden. My first thought? AJ must be coming for dinner.
Of course, I was right. He did not get there right away and K and I talked about some houses she looked at. There was one with rooms for all the kids and a full in-law apartment in the basement. I looked at her with a big smile.
"What?" she asked, thinking this would be perfect for everyone.
I laughed. There was no way in hell that AJ was going to go back to the plan of me living in the basement now that we have all agreed, however briefly, that I would live elsewhere. I went on to say I was sure that AJ was relieved he got both K and I on board with that.
"I don't know. I could probably convince him." she said.
I told her not to bother. I also expressed concern that he might not like me hanging around there everyday either, after a while. Then as we talked about it, I would not be there every day really.
At least 2 days a week I will go see T.
In the fall, I will start a bowling league that is one day a week.
Hopefully I will make some friends and that could take another night.
So now we were talking about 3 or 4 days when I might be doing something other than hanging out with K and AJ. But all that said, she did confirm that as long as my kids are there, I could be there as much as I want to be.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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