All this week I have been helping K with Vacation Bible School at the church where she works. I was able to slip away on Tuesday to visit T, but that was my only night off. The rest of the time have either been at work, or sleeping.
Tonight was the last night and I am all churched out.
Generally the church people know that K and I am separating, but they do not know why. I have told the pastor I am gay, but no one else at the church knows. I am not in a hurry to come out to these people. Not that I give a shit what these people think about me, K really needs this job and I am sure many of them would try to punish her.
As you might guess, as a gay man in the process of coming out, I am not really comfortable with these churchy people. I can generally, deal with being there on Sunday morning. It's only an hour. This week, I have been there for three and a half hours, 5 days in a row. That is not a lot of fun.
While I have never been a church going, I think the sense of community that I observed others experience. I really think that if I could find a church like that, I would enjoy going and being part of the community.
There are several churches, in the area that are open and affirming to gay couples. I have often thought I would like to find a church home with T. We would go together as a couple. As a family.
I am gay man in his 40's who was married for 18 years to a straight woman, who is still my very best friend. We have 4 children together. She is now remarried and we still want to be supportive of each other and make a stable family for our kids.
Cast of Characters
Jim: That's me
K: The wonderful woman I married in 1993. We divorced in November 2011, and she is still my best friend.
T: My ex-boyfriend. We were together from 2008 to 2013. He is still an important person in my life.
AJ: K's new husband. They got married December 2011.
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